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Just Breathe, In The Midst of Trouble

I don’t open up much on my blog about what things tend to stress me out. So is the problem of every man. The pride that keeps us from opening up, hiding behind a mask of confidence, is how we display strength. Well, let me just go ahead and confess and list out what’s up with me right now.

What is troubling me?

  • Work politics
  • Project Deadlines
  • Family Obligations
  • Work Deliverables
  • Home Additions
  • College savings
  • All that other dad stuff

You may have noticed that this is just a list of what stresses everybody out. These are all old foes and known adversaries. And experience I’ve gained from past battles will guide me through.

What keeps me going?

  • Prayer
  • Faith
  • Love
  • God’s Word
  • Friends
  • and now Exercise, seriously, run your stress away

It’s amazing how you can melt your stress away with a long run or a good weight training session. But it’s a temporary relief.

What really helps is the knowledge that God loves me and will never forsake me.


Even if I mess up everything on my list. I know I’ll achieve everything on His list and the purpose He has for me.

Though I walk in the midst of trouble, You will revive me;
You will stretch forth Your hand against the wrath of my enemies,
And Your right hand will save me.
The Lord will accomplish what concerns me; Your lovingkindness, O Lord, is everlasting; Do not forsake the works of Your hands.

Psalm 138:7-8

For David to write this Psalm, it could have been any number of issues that he faced in his life. But even if my issues are much smaller in comparison, You will revive me, O Lord, with Your lovingkindness.

I will be bold with strength in my soul.

On the day I called, You answered me; You made me bold with strength in my soul.

Psalm 138:3

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Dale Carnegie’s 5 Strategies For Conquering Fear and Anxiety

Original Article by Shana Lebowitz

Dale Carnegie is one of the most trusted authors in the self-improvement space. Thanks largely to his bestseller “How to Win Friends and Influence People,” originally published in 1936.

His 1948 book, “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living,” deals with tactics for liberating yourself from anxieties that make you less happy and less productive.

Below are Carnegie’s five most compelling strategies for reducing everyday anxieties.

1. Ask yourself, “What’s the worst that can happen?”

There’s a simple three-step technique that can help when you’re besieged by personal or professional worries.

First, ask yourself what’s the worst that could possibly happen. Second, prepare to accept the worst. Finally, figure out how to improve upon the worst, should it come to pass.

This technique is based on an anecdote from Willis Carrier, founder of the modern air-conditioning industry. While working for the Buffalo Forge Company as a young man, Carrier found that a new gas-cleaning service his company provided wasn’t as effective as he’d hoped.

Carrier realized that the worst that could happen was that his company would lose $20,000. He then accepted it: The company could qualify the loss as the cost of researching a new strategy. Finally, he figured out how to improve the situation: If the company bought $5,000 worth of new equipment, they could resolve the issue. Ultimately, that’s exactly what they did, and they ended up making $15,000.

2. Gather all the facts in an objective way.

As Herbert E. Hawkes, former dean of Columbia College, told Carnegie, “If a man will devote his time to securing facts in an impartial, objective way, his worries will usually evaporate in light of knowledge.”

Carnegie offers two ways to go about collecting facts objectively. You can pretend that you’re gathering this data for someone else, so you’re less emotionally invested in what you find.

Or you can pretend that you’re a lawyer who is preparing to argue the other side of the issue — so you gather all the facts against yourself. Write down the facts on both sides of the case and you’ll generally get a clearer picture of the truth.

3. Generate potential solutions to the problem.

Leon Shimkin, then general manager at Simon and Schuster (he later became the owner), figured out a way to cut the time he spent in meetings by 75%.

He told his associates that every time they wanted to present a problem at a meeting, they had to first submit a memorandum answering four questions: What is the problem? What is the cause of the problem? What are all possible solutions of the problem? What solution do you suggest?

According to Shimkin, once he instituted this new system, his associates rarely came to him with their concerns.

“They have discovered that in order to answer those four questions they have to get all the facts and think their problems through,” he told Carnegie. Once they did that, they typically found that “the proper solution has popped out like a piece of bread popping out from an electric toaster.”

In other words, action replaced worrying and talking.

4. Remember the law of averages.

The law of averages refers to the probability of a specific event occurring — and you should consult the law to find out if it’s worth fretting. Chances are good that whatever you’re worried about isn’t likely to transpire.

Carnegie writes that the US Navy employed the law of averages in order to boost sailors’ morale. Sailors who were assigned to high-octane tankers were initially worried that they would be blown up when the tank exploded. So the Navy provided them with exact figures: Of the 100 tanks that were hit by torpedoes, 60 stayed afloat and only five sank in less than 10 minutes, leaving time to get off the ship.

5. Place stop-loss orders on your worries.

This strategy is based on a principle in stock trading. One investor said he set a stop-loss order on every market commitment he made. Here’s how it works: Say you buy a stock that sells for 100 dollars a share and set a stop-loss order for 90 dollars a share. As soon as that stock dips to 90 dollars a share, you sell it — no questions asked.

You can use this principle in everyday life. For example, Carnegie once wanted to be a novelist, but after two years of toiling away without much success, he decided to cut his losses and go back to teaching and nonfiction writing.

Original Article Link by Shana Lebowitz


“Every day I pray. I yield myself to God, the tensions and anxieties go out of me and peace and power come in.” Dale Carnegie

“You can conquer almost any fear if you will only make up your mind to do so. For remember, fear doesn’t exist anywhere except in the mind.”
Dale Carnegie

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Are You A Goose Sitting On A Powerline?

At the risk of Sounding like I am trying to tell some kind of bad dad joke, I’d like to tell you that you are not a goose sitting on a powerline.

I was driving to work this morning and I saw a group of canadian geese flying over the road and it looked like they were going straight for a group of very tall high-powered lines on their descent.

And it looked like one goose was going to try to land on one of the power lines. I immediately have a thought in my mind that that’s not going to work very well. Geese don’t have talons how is it supposed to hang on to the powerline.

Geese have webbed feet, webbed feet can’t wrap around a high-powered powerline very well. At least in my mind it wouldn’t work well.

God didn’t make webbed feet on geese to wrap around powerlines.

Well, sure enough, that goose barely clipped the powerline but didn’t attempt to land on it. I’m sure if it had tried it would have been a terrible failure worthy of Canadian Geese Funniest Videos.

Are you doing what God intended for you to do? Or are you a goose attempting to sit on a powerline?

I know we all struggle at some point trying to figure out what God’s purpose is for our lives. We want to know what God created us to do.

Many times it’s a lot easier to see the things that we think we can’t do.
I do know this, that we were all created in Christ Jesus for good works.

If you can’t find your calling quiet yet, start with loving others via actions and not just words. In the process of doing those good works you may just find your calling.

For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand so that we would walk in them.
Ephesians 2:10 NASB
https://bible.com/bible/100/eph.2.10.NASB

Work Heartily

Whatever you do, do your work heartily, as for the Lord rather than for men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of the inheritance. It is the Lord Christ whom you serve.
Colossians 3:23‭-‬24 NASB
Have you ever thought about what it would be like if Jesus was your boss? That could be a hard situation for some. I know He is our boss when it comes to our eternal souls and all of creation. But what I mean is if He was your boss at work. Would you work harder? Would you be spending time looking at Facebook on your phone when He wasn’t looking? Probably not. But the Bible tells us that in all we do, we should do it as if we are doing it for the Lord. Think about that.