Your Faith and Salvation are personal. My faith doesn’t cover my children and their sin doesn’t condemn me. Although it seems like many parents try and make both of those things a reality in their home.
As parents we need to take time to train our children on the reasons behind our faith. And then live out that faith. That doesn’t mean we can be sinless examples to our children. It means we admit when we have sinned and repent in an open and observable way.
Many times while we are worried about getting our children to school and taking them to multiple sports practices and games, we forget to prepare them for the spiritual battles they will face in high school, college and life. Which is unfortunate, because their eternal soul is much more valuable that their athletic or scholastic prowess and earning potential.
What do we as parents do? I won’t pretend to know exactly. But here is what I am going to do based on the Biblical directive; “Train up a child in the way he should go, Even when he is old he will not depart from it.” (Prov. 22:6)
Commit to understanding why I believe. My experiential faith may not work for others.
Continue to read, learn and share the doctrine, life examples and Word of God as given to us in the Bible. “All Scripture is inspired by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, for training in righteousness; so that the man of God may be adequate, equipped for every good work.” 2 Timothy 3:16-17
Prepare for the tough questions about why I believe and be ready to give a defense. We should research and formulate our answers and practice them. (Plenty of online videos and books)
Put myself in situations that require me to practice my evidentiary and researched defense of my faith.
Schedule time to train my children and equip them with the knowledge they need to answer the big questions that they will be asked from non-believers and false teachers.
Put my children in controlled situations to experience atheistic and/or false doctrine. And then debrief and examine the proper defense and theology.
Prepare my children to know that even if a teacher or authority figure makes a good case or puts on a good presentation against the existence of God, it does not mean it is true. (This happens in college all the time)
Behold, all souls are Mine; the soul of the father as well as the soul of the son is Mine. The soul who sins will die. The person who sins will die. The son will not bear the punishment for the father’s iniquity, nor will the father bear the punishment for the son’s iniquity; the righteousness of the righteous will be upon himself, and the wickedness of the wicked will be upon himself. “Therefore I will judge you, O house of Israel, each according to his conduct,” declares the Lord God . “Repent and turn away from all your transgressions, so that iniquity may not become a stumbling block to you. Cast away from you all your transgressions which you have committed and make yourselves a new heart and a new spirit! For why will you die, O house of Israel? For I have no pleasure in the death of anyone who dies,” declares the Lord God . “Therefore, repent and live.” EZEKIEL 18:4, 20-20, 30-32 NASB
10. Placing an elf around the house and telling the children that it is their judge. Then as they age they find out it was all a lie.
9. Shopping and paying for a gag gift for people at work that don’t need it and avoiding the red kettle bell ringer on the way in the store.
8. Buying gifts/card for people you don’t even really know at work to gain favor, but not even thinking about the family in need in your small group at church.
7. Telling your children for years that Santa exists and brings them gifts based on their good works that year. Then as they age they find out it was all a lie.
6. Sitting around the tree and wondering why your grown children struggle with feeling inadequate to do ministry because of their past failures.(Santa and Elf affect).
5. Sitting in Christmas service at church and wondering why your grown children struggle to believe there was a Jesus after the whole Santa farce.
4. Struggling to understand why your children can’t believe that Balaam’s donkey spoke, even after carrying on about flying reindeer until they were in first grade.
3. Throwing a fit or pitty party because you didn’t get the gift you wanted to receive for Jesus’ birthday. Then making your spouse or parent feel bad about it.
2. Throwing a fit or pitty party because you gave someone a gift but didn’t receive one from them for Jesus’ birthday.
1. Being upset that family didn’t drive/fly to your house for Christmas day even though you may have only woke up and went to corporate worship at your church down the street three times that year. And they were just with you for a week during Thanksgiving.
This year we decided to take an actual family vacation over the Christmas break. It was the first time for our family to go on a real “vacation” to anywhere outside of Bossier City, LA or Bay Minette, AL. Sure, we have driven an hour and a half up to Branson for a night every couple of years, and occasionally we drive over to Tulsa. But never a real vacation. This year we wanted to make some memories.
When I started searching online for things to do that would be a good meeting point for us coming from northwest Arkansas and my parents coming from southwest Alabama, a few places came to mind. New Orleans and Nashville were the first thoughts, but then I remembered the towns of Gatlinburg and Pigeon Forge from my childhood. After I did some research, the Great Smokey mountains was the obvious choice for a family with young kids. The advertising online highlighted many of the Christmas activities available in the area. But, the one thing that really sold it was the “Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer” characters that were going to be at Dollywood. Sold! I was in.
Now, like any good wife when a husband is excited about something, Jamie had to be convinced. I went to work like a bad used car salesman trying to highlight everything I could find out about all the places and things we could do. It took a couple of days, but I finally sold it to her until she didn’t protest too much. Condo booked, Tickets bought, here we come!
We live in the Ozark mountains of northwest Arkansas. So since we were driving twelve hours to eastern Tennessee, we decided to spend the night in Memphis and eat some good food.
As we left Memphis on our way to Gatlinburg we drove through Nashville and Knoxville. Nashville had a beautiful skyline. After we got east of Nashville a few miles we started seeing a few bigger hills. Jamie commented that it just looks like the Ozarks. I was a small child the last time I was in the Smokey Mountains, but from my memory the mountains were big. But I couldn’t help but worry that maybe I was just small and thought they were bigger than they really were. I hoped that these mountains would start getting bigger real soon so that Jamie would be impressed.
It wasn’t until we got to our condominium that I think we started to understand how much bigger these mountain were, and we didn’t even see the biggest mountains in the Great Smokey mountains. Our condominium sat on top of a mountain in Gatlinburg at 2800′. That is 100′ higher than the highest point in Arkansas at Mt. Magazine. The highest point in the Great Smokey Mountains is Clingman’s Dome at 6673′, which I do want to see on our next trip.
We had three days and had a one day pass to the Dollywood theme park. So we just needed to use those passes on the day with the best weather.
Our first night in the Smokey Mountains wasn’t planned out. There was too much to do, so we decided to just do whatever we felt like when we got there. The first night we went to The Island in Pigeon Forge. This is a shopping area with restaurants and other entertaining activities. We ate at Margaritaville, rode the Great Smokey Mountain Wheel, and just walked the area. It was a beautiful at The Island, it was all lit up with Christmas lights. Also, there was a spot at the Margaritaville Hotel where they had an outside fire pit and an employee keeping it going for everyone to enjoy. It was a little chilly on the first night we were there, but not too bad. Of course, we had to stop at Krispy Kreme on the way back to the condo. That place was crazy, cars were backed up around the building at the drive through every night we were there. I think everyone must have been cheating on their diet while on vacation. This trip to Krispy Kreme included a foot race to the door between my dad and a girl in her twentys. True story!
When we got back to our condo I got some firewood off the porch and lit the fireplace. I lit it up each night just to hear the wood popping and smell the wood a little. Everyone enjoyed it. Of course, the kids had to use the hot tub in our bathroom each night as well.
The second day we decided to head up to Uber Gatlinburg and go to the Hatfield and McCoy Dinner Show. Uber Gatlinburg is a ski resort that has artificial snow for skiing, ice skating, German food, and a Tram from downtown Gatlinburg up to the top of the mountain where the lodge is. We were just going to ride the Tram, so I had to promise Addison that we would Ski next time to get her off the mountain, and she will remember. After the Tram we went to lunch in downtown Gatlinburg and then went and relaxed in the condo for a while. The Highlands condominiums have really great views. It is a little more expensive than some of the others, but it is worth it. Then around 3:00 we went back to downtown Gatlinburg and walked around town. There are a lot of shops and attractions, from old time candy makers to new age kid friendly activities. We didn’t get to do everything, there will be plenty left to do next time we go. I especially want to go to the aquarium and Nascar experience next time. We did take the kids into the Ripley’s Mirror Maze and they rode an earthquake simulator which was better than the ones you sit in at the mall. This one is actually a stand alone ride with animatronic scenery, real fire, and a moving train. We also stopped by the Ripley’s Guinness Book of Records lobby. (pictures below)
The third day we went to Dollywood for the day and then we ate dinner at the Hard Rock Cafe. Now, when we met mom and dad at the condo the first night, my mom reminded me that I had been to Dollywood as a child with her and my grandparents. I knew I had been to the mountains before as a child, but I didn’t really remember where I had been. So, this was probably special for mom since she had brought her kids there and now she is with her grandchildren at the same place. Mom rode every ride in that park with Addison, they had a lot of fun. We also rode the train, watched the “Christmas Carol” show, which include a holographic Dolly, and had the obligatory funnel cake. The show was really quite amazing. They holographs the used for the ghosts of Christmas were very lifelike. Then At the end of the park day we watched the Christmas parade which had some really cool lighted floats. As we were about to finish the parade and leave the park it started to sprinkle rain, but in all it was a great day with temperatures in the 60s for most of the day. When we left the park we headed into Pigeon Forge and found the Hard Rock Cafe. The food was good, and we had free anniversary dessert for Jamie and I. The OCC Chopper was neat that was in the front. (pictures below)
For our first vacation everything turned out fantastic. I really think that it turned out great because we just did whatever we wanted to do each day and had fun. I am really looking forward to our next trip to the Smokey Mountains.